It Takes One to Tango
by Winifred M. Reilly
2020-07-10 10:55:20
With a focus on self-empowerment and resilience, this refreshing and witty relationship guide has a reassuring counterintuitive message for unhappy spouses: you only need one partner to initiate far-reaching positive change in a marriage. Conventiona...
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With a focus on self-empowerment and resilience, this refreshing and witty relationship guide has a reassuring counterintuitive message for unhappy spouses: you only need one partner to initiate far-reaching positive change in a marriage. Conventional wisdom says that âit takes twoâ to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples canât agree on howâor whetherâto make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative. âWhat distinguishes Reillyâs book is that she says a warring couple donât have to agree on the goal of staying together; it takes one person changing, not both, to make a marriage workâ (The New York Times). Marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly has this message for struggling partners: Take the lead. Doing so is effectiveâand powerful. Through Reillyâs own story of reclaiming her now nearly forty-year marriage, along with anecdotes from many clients sheâs worked with, youâll learn how to: -Focus on your own behaviors and change them in ways that make you feel good about yourself and your marriage -Take a firm stand for what truly matters to you without arguing, cajoling, or resorting to threats -Identify the âbig pictureâ issues at the basis of your repetitive fightsâand learn how to unhook from them -Be less reactive, especially in the face of your spouseâs provocations -Develop the strength and stamina to be the sole agent of change Combining psychological theory, practical advice, and personal narrative, It Takes One to Tango is a âwise and upliftingâ (Dr. Ellyn Bader, Director of The Couples Institute) guide that will empower those who choose to take a bold, proactive approach to creating a loving and lasting marriage.
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